In a recent article authored by Falk associate professor of social work, Ellen Walser deLara offers insight on how to help children talk about violence and bullying. It’s troubling to think about the reality that children and adolescents are surrounded by a culture of bullying at school, and for some of them, at home. Furthermore, in an age where communities, societies and continents are more connected than ever before, children are living with an awareness of violence on a global scale. Dr. deLara explains that dialogue is key in helping children and teens cope with violence they experience at school, at home and through the media.
With over 30 years of experience working with children and adults as a practicing family therapist, deLara focuses on the lasting impact of bullying on children, adolescents and adults in her recently released book, Bullying Scars: The impact on adult life and relationships.
In her book, she indicates a critical point of intervention is dialogue. “We want to create an open and non-judgmental dialogue to which children can return repeatedly with a sense of trust,” deLara notes. She explains that creating a safe environment free of distraction will help foster a beneficial conversation for children and teens alike.
Not all children have the presence of caring adults in their lives, says deLara, which makes it important for community members to be aware of these issues. “All caring adults need to be ready to have these kinds of conversations. Many children are not fortunate enough to have parents or caretakers who can or will.”